These words, “A new school year.”
They’ve most likely often made you hold your breath a little bit when you are raising a child with special needs. New class, maybe a new school, a new teacher… But who would ever imagine that you would be facing a new challenge the likes of a Global Pandemic as you entered into Fall 2020?
But here we are.
As you go forth and conquer what is happening right now in the educational world of your family, what should you be acutely aware
When we are faced with new and uncertain circumstances, we often have two choices:
- Hold on tightly to everything we’ve ever known and experienced to guide us through whatever lies ahead.
- Put aside what we think we knew and reach outside of our knowledge to find new ways to address unique situations.
Today, I want to suggest to you that the best option probably lies somewhere in the middle.
Your middle will be different than my middle, but there are some commonalities that we can all put to some use in finding our best position and state to maintain as we respond and decide what the future holds for us during this whole new school year.
Our two choices I referenced earlier both involve an element of letting go.
That is one of the neater things about facing an unknown challenge. We can clean out our closet of behaviors.
A little clutter removal is a great idea when you want to fight off what is probably more present inside yourself than ever before:
FEAR, which results in a lot of anxiety.
Fear makes us do things that don’t always make the best sense. But one of the worst things it does it make us unaware of how others can help us.
It makes us keep to ourselves and see people as the enemy versus an ally.
And right now, it kind of feels like our fears are pushing us potentially toward an ‘us versus them’ when it comes to the educational system.
So let’s talk about how to let go, and hopefully reduce some of the fear that sets up that no-win scenario.
When looking at letting go, the first thing you want to do is know what are the deal breakers in terms of what you must keep.
And these things usually involve what you absolutely need to maintain a healthy outcome, along with what parts are your rights. Rights that have been worked hard on becoming a reality, so you don’t want to let those go.
Yes, there are some things that no compromise.
Needs and rights help us not be afraid because we know we won’t allow them to be taken away.
They are why we are brave. And if I know brave people, it’s you, parents.
So what can we let go of?
What are some of the things that you’ve done in the past, concerning your child’s education, that you might have regretted?
What are some things that you spent far too much time struggling with and brought you no real positive outcome?
Instead, what are some things about your child’s education that bring you the most peace? The greatest sense of security?
The difference between these two lists is that one supported fear and anxiety, strife, and disagreement.
The other supported calm and understanding. Clarity and possibilities.
Over the next few weeks, I hope you will take some time to make a list of what you want to keep and what you want to let go of.
And support each decision with whether or not
it brings you to fear
or it makes you brave.
Just think, what would you do if you were not afraid?
You can find out when you are willing to let go.
Joy is originally from the Central Valley of California, where she was raised on a farm and discovered her love for growing things. As the mother of a blended family of 7 adults and the grandmother of 9, she's learned many lessons about supporting the growth of people.