Memorial Day is the traditional beginning of Summer for many people in our country.
But this year, while you can cross off having to do online learning for a few months, there isn’t much else that might be changing in terms of your season. We’ll call it Summer, but so much of it will be different.
The pools are closed. Summer camps are not happening. There will be no trip to an amusement park or beach.
Even as I utter these words, you might find your anxiety rising.
And the first thing you want to do is to start grasping and digging for ideas. How will you fill up all these days?
But how does that activity make you feel? These searches and seeking are more than likely only increasing your anxiousness, not calming you down.
I could list and give you fun ideas for things you can do instead of your traditional fare, and we will do that.
However, these things will not really change the look of your “quarantine summer” until you find a way to unclench your fists, calm your mind, and breathe.
So. How do you do that?
Well, how about if you starting kissing everything that comes your way?
What is K.I.S.S?:
Keep. It. Simple. Sweetheart.
When things are getting too complicated for you, stop. And K.I.S.S.
When things are getting out of control and you’re not sure where your head is at or what’s going on where and when and next and...
Just stop. Breathe.
And then fall back and give the situation you are facing a K.I.S.S.
When you’re starting to feel like a rag doll being pulled in a million different directions and all your stitches are about to come undone, and your cute, mismatched buttons are ready to pop, just stop.
Slow down. Give yourself the most loving, the kindest gift of all.
And that’s to allow yourself to K.I.S.S.
In the midst of all this confusion and complication, you need a clear mind more than ever.
And that isn’t an invitation to make yourself DO MORE, it’s an invitation to DO LESS.
Start checking in with yourself more and listening to your inner voice.
What is it saying? What does it want?
What needs to give/stop/surrender/be put on pause in order to simplify and feel free?
You’ve heard me say many times that you can’t help your kids function when you are struggling with functioning.
How are you coping with things, and what is in your power and in your choice to change?
You have so much more strength and authority than you probably give yourself credit for to make choices that benefit you.
And you’re allowed to make those choices, even though it’s easy to focus on what you CAN’T DO right now.
It can be daunting at first, but learning how to simplify your life can start by simply being aware of the changes you want to make.
Summer doesn’t have to be full and busting to the seams this year.
And you don’t have to feel forced to make it wonderful.
As much as we love everyone in our lives and care about not letting others down, it’s not all our job.
You’ve got to start by making sure you are okay.
Who is going to take care of you in the best way possible?
You got it, sweetheart. You.
And you can K.I.S.S. away anything you need to, whether it’s in your expectations, your work life, or especially, your parenting.
Where do you need a loving K.I.S.S. right now? Plant those babies everywhere...
Instead of looking at the months ahead as one overwhelming collection of days, K.I.S.S. them, each one, and one day at a time.
Exchange the words, “How are we going to get through this?” with “I can do this today.”
When you can keep a clear and calm mind, you’ll be amazed at the creative and simple ideas that will fill your head.
The backyard sprinkler becomes the water park. A bubble bath in the afternoon becomes pool time. The blender with some fruit syrup and ice becomes a snow cone machine.
You can do this sweetheart. Just remember to keep it simple.
Joy is originally from the Central Valley of California, where she was raised on a farm and discovered her love for growing things. As the mother of a blended family of 7 adults and the grandmother of 9, she's learned many lessons about supporting the growth of people.